An ode to sunshine in January! (Photo by me.)
"If it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no."
- Abraham Hicks
This is an idea I've heard in many forms but one of my favorites is from Oprah in her amazing little book What I Know For Sure. She came to this realization after donating money (yet again) to a cause she didn't fully believe in. "I wrote down a few words, which I now keep on my desk: 'Never again will I do anything for anyone that I do not feel directly from my heart. I will not attend a meeting, make a phone call, write a letter, sponsor or participate in any activity in which every fiber of my being does not resound yes."
This simple binary decision totally cuts down on waffling. Is it a hell yes? Or is it a "kinda, maybe, sorta, but actually I'm feeling pretty tired..."? If it's the latter, it's a no. Period. I give myself permission to change my mind, but I also give myself permission to say no. If I truly don't know what to do? I wait. As Oprah says: "When you don't know what to do, my best advice is to do nothing until clarity comes. ... Give yourself time to let a yes or no resound within you. When it's right, your whole body feels it."
Mantra Bands. I love these beautiful, well-made bracelets with little intentions engraved on them. I have three so far, all in yellow gold: Trust, Aloha, and Expect Miracles. They’re subtle enough that the message feels private (for example, your dinner companion or someone sitting next to you on the bus won’t be able to read it easily). I just pick the one (or two, or three) that resonate for me each day. On my wish list for 2018? Fearless. :)
Are you watching The Good Place on NBC? It’s the funniest, smartest thing on TV right now. Here’s a little clip from last week’s episode (some spoilers-ish but still funny). “Of course there’s a gift shop!”