Finding little things to appreciate -- from the lovely illustrator @bymariandrew
"Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want?"
- Abraham Hicks
Have you heard of Abraham Hicks? They (“they” or “she” or “it" -- it’s a whole thing, don’t get me started...) talk a lot about the concept of contrast. Contrast means: experiencing what you DON’T want shows what you DO want. And once you know what you DO want, you can easily slip out of the negative emotion from the don’t-want and focus on the good feeling of your desire.
Here’s an example. I’m currently sharing a car with my family after having a car of my own for many years. I appreciate that they are willing to share but it can get frustrating. When I notice my frustration, I try to use that as a cue for contrast. I’ve clearly identified my “don’t want” (sharing a car). What is it I DO want? My own car. Now, what would having my own transportation feel like? It feels like freedom, independence, spontaneity, flow, and FUN.
If I can kind of bask in those future feelings of freedom, etc., after a few minutes that will actually change the chemical makeup in my body… and it just feels good! So then chemically, I am feeling those good feelings right NOW even though the outer circumstances haven’t changed at all.
Here’s the formula:
- Notice when you’re experiencing a DON’T want.
- Identify what you DO want.
- Figure out what your desire will feel like, and milk it!
This can apply in all sorts of arenas. Try money:
- Notice when your experience is showing you a DON’T want – like... having less money in your savings account than you want.
- Now identify what you DO want -- x amount of dollars in your savings account.
- What would having x amount of dollars feel like? Maybe it feels like security, abundance, comfort, confidence, freedom, choices, or power.
Revel in those good feelings and you will feel better that you did a few moments ago, for sure.
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